Thoughtful presents: Detective Bob and Bev

Buying Christmas presents can be a tricky thing as you’d always like people to use your presents and not just give them to a charity shop on the first instance. For my parents Christmas present I thought I’d create a joint present that they would both use.

They both like watching drama series, and regularly recommend ones to watch, and so I thought of something that could assist with their TV watching.

Now the picture only shows the remains of the present as I didn’t get round to taking a picture of the rest of the contents of the gift. I simply bought them 5 of their favourite snacks and drinks that they like when watching TV. Sweet chilli crisps, ginger beer and chocolate covered raisins were a few things I got them.

Because many of the shows they watch are crime related I also got them notebooks addressed as case books so they could write down who they think had done it on the series they are watching.

It just goes to show that presents don’t need to break the bank in order to be liked. The snacks were eaten pretty quickly and the notebooks don’t take up too much room either.

Thoughtful presents: Binging boxsets

My friend Hayley also known as Rock turned 30 back in August. I didn’t get her anything straight away as I couldn’t figure out the perfect gift. But an off comment she said in a message a few weeks ago gave me an idea.

She gets through TV shows at a rapid rate. Rock got through 12 series of Greys Anatomy in an extremely fast time, I did wonder if she got any sleep! With this in mind when she said she’d run out of boxsets to watch and was thinking of rewatching Greys Anatomy again for the 3rd time, I knew I could do something.

Getting a Netflix subscription for a year could be costly, and sometimes too much choice is even tougher than not having enough choice. And for me it just didn't seem a personally thoughtful gift. So I thought to get her the first series of a several different TV shows of different genres. A taster of them, and if it turns out she likes any of the shows then she can go on and watch the rest of the series on her own accord.

I got the boxsets from the ever trusty Cex, and it cost me roughly £10. I remember a time when a boxset cost me £30 each!

Thoughtful presents: A pack of cards

I’ve used a pack of cards twice this year as a present for friends going through tough times. Earlier in the year my flatmate was going through a bad breakup and to distract her I gave her a pack of cards with bits of trivia written on each card. This was a short term fix to keep her busy and it did keep her from thinking about her ex, even if it was just for a little while.

The other day I asked my old flatmate how her studies were going, as she is studying to be a solicitor, and she said it wasn’t great. She felt like she had bitten off more than she could chew and that she was really struggling.

I obviously couldn’t do the course for her, but I thought what could I do to motivate her and to give her a bit of a boost. And then I thought of a pack of cards. I decided to write a motivational quote about career, tough times and determination on each card. As she has a lot of course work, watching a film about tough times would take too much time. A quote would be quick to read and hopefully give that boost she’d need to conquer the work she was doing.

I was at a pub the other night and a couple asked what I was doing, as I was busy writing the quotes. I explained and they asked if they could read a few, and picked them out like they were fortune cookies!

At the moment I’m not sure how it was received as I only posted it the day before yesterday, but fingers crossed it gets her back on track and helps her feel a little less stressed.

Thoughtful presents: Recovery care package

I’ve known my friend Alice a very long time and know how important her family are to her. A few weeks ago her sister went in for an operation and I decided to make a care package for her and Alice’s parents for when she got out.

Quite often we think about keeping people entertained while they are in hospital, but we forget that if there is recovery as well, that part maybe tedious at time.

The care package is full of little games and things to keep her sister and parents entertained. I didn’t realise at the time that Alice’s mum was also going into hospital shortly afterwards for a hip operation, so the care package had double the use!

Thoughtful presents: You learn something new everyday

So technically this isn’t a thoughtful present, but it is a thoughtful gesture that I have done a few times that I thought I would share.

This year I know a few people that have gone through tough times and naturally I want to be there for them in the best possible way. However the tough times they are going or went through I haven’t been through myself. Quite often this can happen and you worry about whether you’ll say the right thing or not. It reminds me of something my mum said about how when my older sister passed away, one of the worst things after her passing was seeing people she knew in the street, and that they crossed the road upon seeing my mum because they didn’t know what to say to her. Although it wasn’t a conscious decision at the time my mum told me that, I knew that I didn’t want to be one of the people that crossed the street. I wanted to be prepared.

And the best way I know to be prepared or informed about a subject area I don’t know is to read about it. Reading with a purpose. The last time I read with a purpose was the library summer reading schemes I did as a child. I looked through the certificates I got for those, and I read a lot in those summers! That was the last time I probably read to a deadline regularly.

Life doesn’t come with deadlines and it’s unexpected when people you know go through tough times. The first time I read with a purpose to help was for my ex a couple of years ago. He had wanted to get back to his old self after going through a very traumatic time. I had heard about CBT and thought it matched his mindset perfectly. So I rushed to Waterstones, bought CBT for Dummies and read it in 2 weeks and suggested he'd read it and give it a go. Reading a textbook back to back is not fun, but I thought if it would help him get back to his old self then it would be useful to read the book. But as I learnt at the age of 3, you can’t force people to like you, and in a similar guise, you can’t force people to read a book. As far as I know the book is still gathering dust on his bookshelf.

After this I changed my tact. I wouldn’t give people books that I had read, rather I’d simply impart the knowledge I learnt from the book. Particularly with mental health, as I have said in a previous post, one size doesn’t fit all. So what I do know is a similar method that one of my lecturers did at uni. I throw several ideas out, and hope one sticks.

I’ve done this a few times recently. The first with the Option B book by Sheryl Sandberg. A close friend of mine is going through unbelievable grief and I wanted to help straight away. The last person that passed away in my life was my 101 year old Grandma, so we knew her time was at an end with her passing. But grief of a younger person is completely different. The Option B book is amazing and I read it in a weekend. I folded the corner of so many pages as there were so many ideas that I thought would be great in supporting my friend. And a few that I have tried so far have worked, and they’ve helped me think of other ideas too.

Reinvent Me is another great book which I bought after going to a workshop on the book and read in a few days. I’ve got a friend who’s going through a troublesome time with her career and I think the visualising part of the book will assist in seeing things in a different way, and will ultimately give her a bit of a boost.

Lastly I read Fearne Cotton’s Happy book after a friend of mine recently got diagnosed with depression. I had read another book on depression years ago, so I had already read into the subject before. Although the Happy book isn’t completely about depression, it does give tips on ways of coping. So I’m going to write to my friend today with some ideas that might be useful tools for her.

You might think I put pressure on myself to read these books in a fast turnaround time, but when someone in your life is going through a tough time; you want the tough times to start getting better yesterday, and that’s why I read the books and absorb them as fast as I can. Life is busy so maybe reading a book for someone might not be feasible, but maybe sending a song or a quote or an article you read might help them through that tough time, and be a quicker way to show you are there for someone.

Thoughtful presents: Sock-cakes

My friend Michelle’s birthday is a few days before mine and we both like cakes whether its eating or baking them.

A while ago she randomly dropped into conversation that she likes socks, especially the furry ones and I wondered whether I could combine cakes and socks. It turns out I can with what is known as the sock-cakes!

I was originally going to present these on a card cupcake stand, but this was impossible to find, so I found a nice tray from Poundland. They do a great baking range there and I need to go back and stock up. The silicon cupcake cases you can also get from Poundland but I got mine from Wilkinsons and the socks were from New Look.

To make the socks look like cakes, (and believe me from afar they do look like cakes) I got the pairs together, rolled them up and then put an elastic band around them. Then when putting them in the cases I pulled the band down so it was hidden by the cases.

I think Michelle like the gift, although her baby daughter started getting grumpy and Michelle had to see if she was okay, so she didn’t really get time to look at the present.

Thoughtful presents: One size does not fit all

This is a particularly tricky blog post to write, but one I felt I would attempt to say a few words on. Over the past few months there have been a few people in my life that have gone through mental health issues. (My apologies if that is the incorrect term.) I’m not going to say their names as it isn’t important but they have all been dealing with depression and anxiety.

When you see people in your life go through these things, I have a particular reflex that I have to do something to make their life better in some way, but not necessarily give a solution. There is no end date for someone being free of a mental health issue.

What I have come to learn is that one size doesn’t fit all. 2 people I know were both going through depression and anxiety. Both let me know what was going on and while one wanted me around, the other upon offering to keep them company, they said they didn’t want to see people.

Trying to show support from afar can be tricky. Quite often we can say to friends who are going through a tough time I’ll be there for you, but I feel that doesn’t really do much.

Although the internet isn’t professional advice, I wanted to see from real people what helps them when they are going through depression and anxiety. Buzzfeed gave me some great ideas and I created 2 care packages for people I knew going through anxiety.

The packages included a water bottle to keep hydrated, playdough to play with and keep distracted with. A puzzle book to keep the mind busy, a notebook to draw doodles in, socks to wear for long walks, bubbles to blow, a favourite book to read and a nicely scented candle. I thought if I put a variety of things that may help, then at least one might have the right impact. And the people i gave the packages to said about the things in the packages that helped which was a good sign.

I bought the person that couldn’t see people during the dark times a necklace to symbolise that even though they couldn’t see people, it gave the feeling they weren’t alone.

When giving gifts you have to be careful not to bombard the person. One gift is enough to say that you are there for that person unconditionally. I give the gifts a couple of days after I know what that person is going through. I do this just so the person has forgotten the conversation we had and is now focused onto something else.

Since the people in my life have hit their lowest points, I check in from time to time to ensure they don’t feel pressured in giving updates. Cards are a great thing to give if you just want to remind someone you are there for them, and a symbol of how far they’ve come in their journey.

I’m not sure if this blog post has been of help to anyone, or whether I’ve been to blasé about mental health issues. It’s something I’m constantly learning about. I read a book called Sunbathing in the Sun years ago, which is about depression. Becoming more knowledgeable about mental health isn’t going to make me an expert, and that’s not what I set out to do. But I hope that I can be a better person and support to those I know going through mental health issues.

Thoughtful presents: Leaving on a jet plane

My friend Coops and his girlfriend Fran who I’ve become friends with as well are heading off to New Zealand for 18 months. Yesterday they had farewell drinks and I thought it was an occasion that needed a present.

I thought the best thing to get them was an airport/flight care package. After asking a couple of friends who’d travelled a fair bit for some ideas I came up with the below.

I bought them a couple of magazines; Coops loves films so Empire magazine was best. For Fran I got her Psychologies magazine as I thought fashion and girlie magazines weren’t her sort of thing. I also put in a colouring book and puzzle book to keep boredom away and some fluffy warm socks for the flight itself.

They weren’t expecting anything, so their surprised reaction was nice to see.

Thoughtful presents: First time mums

Over the years quite a few of my friends have been pregnant and it’s easy to think of a present for when the baby is born, but not so easy to think of what to get somebody who has just announced they are pregnant.

I’ve given this present twice, first to my friend Michelle when she was pregnant last year, and secondly a few months back to a colleague of mine who announced she was pregnant also.

When Michelle first told me she was pregnant I wondered what could I get her to say congrats but also be helpful. Alas my two week work placement at Mother and Baby magazine during my Journalism degree did not prove useful in thinking of an idea. Partly because I spent the majority of the time photocopying!

So I googled what expectant mums would be going through in the first trimester and found that they would be getting increasingly tired and needed more water than usual. There were other things as well, probably to do with food, but I thought people’s food tastes are so different and change so much with pregnancy that I thought it was best to steer clear of food.

I then thought to keep it simple and buy a water bottle and a cushion. Both my colleague and Michelle commuted to work, so both presents were needed and greatly appreciated.

Thoughtful presents: Not costing the earth

I find the whole issue of how much we spend on presents really interesting. I’m a firm believer that affection shouldn’t come at a cost. I remember at school and uni, people would talk about how much they would spend on Christmas presents for their family and it would be around £200 and I was shocked.

My family pride ourselves on getting a bargain. It doesn’t mean that a family member isn’t less deserving of a gift because we didn’t spend so much on them. It means we can spend money on a greater number of people if we wish. I remember one Christmas Lucy bought Lisa series 1-5 of CSI, and she had to explain the cost because HMV had made a major error in their labelling and instead of £30 or so, it was £3 or roundabouts that figure! It was that great a bargain that the story had to be told.

On Tuesday I caught up with my friend Laura who I hadn’t seen in a couple of months. It was her birthday on Monday and I said that I would treat her to some gelato at Fabios. I also had bought a lucky dip bag from Tiger, which happened to be her favourite shop. I had no idea what was in it, but as you can see she got some random gifts. I didn’t realise that she actually loved the bird clips in the bag and had a few already and wanted some more.

She loved the lucky dip bag and the gelato; with the bag costing £2 and the gelato just over £3, a fiver for happiness for a friend isn’t bad going.

Thoughtful present: A party in a box

A few weeks ago I saw the live streaming of the National Theatre production of Angels in America at my local cinema. It was in two parts shown over two consecutive weeks. The first part was 3 hours 20 minutes and the second part was 4 hours 20 minutes (each part had a couple of intervals thrown in.) It was an epic play with amazing performances by the whole cast, and the staging and lighting were of a very high standard as well.

What stayed with me afterwards was ability the whole cast had to remember what was in essence the duration of several plays. And furthermore had the high energy to give thought provoking, funny and sensitive performances night after night.

I’ve written to a cast of a show before when I thought it was really good, but I thought that wouldn’t be enough this time. My sister Lucy knew someone who worked at the theatre itself and he advised against giving anything baked. The first thing I thought about when leaving the streaming of the play was that the cast need a long holiday, but I’m not a millionaire so I couldn’t send them to a tropical island!

I then thought that letting their hair down and having a party might be the next best option. So I visited one of my favourite shops Tiger and bought things to make a party in box or party package which has a nice ring to it. Novelty glasses were the main contributor, and I also bought some funky straws and disposable shot glasses. In a stroke of luck, I also found some sashes that said ‘I was hot in the 80s; which was pretty apt as the play is set in the 80s!

I dropped off the party pack to stage door early this evening. Who knows if it will be used at a party they may have. Even though there were a few well-known actors in the cast including Oscar nominated Andrew Garfield, I’m sure they’d appreciate a surprise thoughtful present from time to time.

Thoughtful presents: They don’t always go right

Throughout this blog I’ve mentioned random acts of kindness and thoughtful presents that I’ve given. Social media has a way of being able to highlight when things go right, but if I did that all the time then it wouldn’t be real life. Things go wrong and this week a thoughtful present/act of kindness went wrong.

One of my creative friends was going through a tough time as a family member was in and out of hospital. When I hear somebody I know is going through a tough time, I have a reflex that I have to do something to make things better. Not to solve the problem because I haven’t got a magic wand in life. I just feel a surprise present, act of kindness or whatever you want to call it, might make a tough day a bit better.

So back to my creative friend, I thought making some granola bars might do the trick. They’re a good source of energy and healthy. I got my friends address and like all acts of kindness I was all set to do a doorstop drop off because some people get awkward in accepting kindness. I was all set…and then I saw on his Instagram that he was on holiday! So I had a batch of granola bars but with nowhere to go. Luckily with anything I bake; family, flatmates, and work colleagues are happy to eat them. 

This isn’t the first time a kindness idea hasn’t gone the way I planned it. A friend of mine last year had her first baby. She had lost her mum when she was a teenager and although she had female relatives around her, I thought it would be great to get some advice on motherhood from some well-known mum’s. I wrote to around 15, and had planned to write to more. But I only got 2 replies; one was from JK Rowling’s people saying she doesn’t reply to individual letters. The other was in a week of writing and was from Jo Elvin, who is the editor of Glamour magazine. She wrote a lovely letter for my friend and really put the time into writing. I didn’t get the outcome I wanted, maybe I just wrote to the wrong people.

And when I did a random act of kindness day I tried to give a dog a bone! It’s seriously hard to do. The owners are close by and would get suspicious of a stranger giving their dog a bone. In the end I just had to leave it in a park and hope a dog would find it!

In the news you hear lots about random acts of kindness and the successes, but you hear less about the ones where the intentions are good, but don’t pay off. They should be rewarded just as much because at the end of the day, doing something for a stranger is a risk, you don’t know how they’ll react whether it will be good or bad.

If an act of kindness doesn’t pan out, don’t be put off. It’s all about timing and sometimes even acts of kindness, however great they are can have a case of the right place wrong time. And if you’ve experienced that in an act of kindness you’ve done, I urge you to keep going, and I applaud your efforts.

Now does anybody want some granola??

Thoughtful presents: A year long wedding present

Just over a year ago Kate and Dan got married. Kate is sisters with my flatmate Rachel and I’ve known the couple for many years. I’ve noticed over the past few years that most couples who get married request money for their honeymoon, and unless I don’t know the couple very well, I don’t really like giving money as I feel it’s just going to spend it on drinks which will then be in the toilet a few hours later!
 

So where possible I like to be thoughtful, and with Kate and Dan I thought what could I do different? Coming from a Wedding Coordinator background I often wondered what married couples talk about once the wedding is over. All that build up and then it’s over in a day. I wanted to keep the celebration feeling last a little longer.

The traditional present for the anniversary of the first year of marriage is paper. And with this in mind I decided to give Kate and Dan a paper related gift every month in their first year of marriage. The first present I gave them was on their wedding day and this was a newspaper, which they both really appreciated as they were meaning to get someone to buy one but they forgot. It’s a great keepsake, and it’ll be pretty interesting reading in the future.

Other presents included:
•    The number one fiction book the day they got married.
•    A scratch map.
•    Disposable cameras, photo album a list of things to take pictures of for a photo scavenger hunt.
•    Paper craft kit
•    A paper brussel sprout (you guessed it, this was December’s present)
•    A book about the best bars in the world
•    Lonely Planet magazine
•    Draw your own caricatures set
•    An address book which I turned into a restaurant guide, to list all their favourite restaurants
•    A jigsaw puzzle.

Their final present was my favourite present and it was personalised paperchains. Thanks to a sale on Not on the High Street, I managed to get these half price, so it was a bonus that I got a bargain. The set included over 50 strips to make paperchains with, and you could choose up to 16 images, so I chose ones from the stag and hen do’s as well as the wedding itself.

 

I really liked how they turned out, and Rachel set them out for Kate and Dan when they all went on a family holiday to Greece. They even wore them as wristbands.

I had a lot of fun thinking of different presents on the same theme. I had some initial ideas when I thought of the theme, but was glad other things popped up on the way.

Thoughtful presents: Music in the future, from the past

A couple of months ago my friend Michelle had a baby girl called Millie. It’s her first child and I’ve had a few friends who have got children and I’m also at a loss at what to get. Toys and clothes are the obvious, but babies grow out of clothes quickly and move on from toys just as fast. I got my thinking cap on as to what I could get that might last a little longer and then I had an idea.

Michelle did a clever thing which not all my friends have had children have done, she text me after a couple of days saying what date Millie had been born on. Sometimes you hear about when babies arrive, but they don’t mention their birth date. This is all important in the present that I got.

What I bought was the album which was number one at the time Millie was born, and the number single. Although with singles no longer being readily available, she ended up getting another album. Millie’s full name is Emelia and Elbow had the number one album with Little Fictions, and the number one single was Shape of You by Ed Sheeran. So it was a week of the letter E. It was also a good thing she arrived when she did, if she arrived earlier then she would’ve got a Justin Bieber song as the number one single!

I wrote a letter with the CDs and the present and letter are to be opened by Millie when she is older and starts appreciating music and likes reading letters. So I’m hoping this will be 6 and upwards. The letter states how I know her parents, why music is important and how it’s a great thing to enjoy and help you through the good times and the bad, and how fun it is to dance.

I really enjoyed writing the letter. I’ve given Michelle the choice of when she gives the present to Millie. She says it’s going to be in her wardrobe until that point. I’m excited for the future and when Millie will open her present. I want to start backdating this sort of present with other friend’s children, especially the ones that are a bit older. It will be really interesting to see what music was number one when they were born.

Thoughtful presents: Supporting exam madness

Whenever I talk to one of my friends, if they say they are struggling, or down I automatically think what can I do to help them. And recently my old flatmate Faith said she was right in the middle of exam madness. She’s currently doing law exams and they are notoriously tough. Although I haven’t done law exams to the depth that Faith is I did do GCSE Law and NCTJ Law exams at uni. Both of which I found really difficult and I even failed the NCTJ one first time round.

Studying for exams around full time work shows even more determination and even more energy than when studying for exams at school. I didn’t want to bombard Faith with useless things, but I thought a visit to Paperchase might brighten up her studying days, and also to use a 20% off voucher that I had as well.

I got scented highlighters, because it’s a small reference to Legally Blonde when Elle Woods gives her resume in and it’s scented. I got a little gratitude book where you write 3 things that make you happy each day, so that could provide positivity during stressful times, novelty sunglasses just because they are funny and laughter is good for stress.

Food also made an appearance and after some research I found that pumpkin seeds and blueberries are great for brain power.

Faith was really pleased with the gifts and she said that pumpkin seeds were her favourite so that was the perfect choice.

Thoughtful presents: Festive treats

Nothing says Christmas like festive sweet treats. Although I’d done Secret Santa twice at work, there were a few people at work that I wanted to give little presents to.

At my work I know most people like it when I bake, so I baked some millionaire shortbread. And I put the shortbread in cute little festive paper bags I brought from Not on the High Street years ago, but didn’t know what presents to use them for.

Again another present not costing the earth, but the recipients seemed to like it as much as a really expensive gift.

Thoughtful presents: Chris Pratt for Christmas

Tis the season for gifts and I thought I’d share what I made for one of my work colleagues. My workmate Faith is a big fan of Chris Pratt and he’s currently promoting one of his films. Now alas I haven’t got the power to give Chris Pratt to Faith for Christmas, but he is on the cover of the latest GQ magazine.

So I got the magazine and decided to personalise it with speech bubbles of Chris Pratt saying things to do with things that Faith likes or things she jokes about at work.

Here are some of the personalised pages and Faith loved the present and found it hilarious.

An unusual present which didn’t cost the earth but was funnier than any present I could’ve bought in a shop.

Thoughtful presents: A DVD Christmas

Since the end of September I’ve been living with my friend Rachel and she’s not really one for  presents but I thought as she’s now my flatmate I should get her something for Christmas.

The flat mainly consists of eating good food and trying to watch good films (some of the Rocky films have been shocking though!) So I thought a present about film would be a good option, but what?

I don’t know how I came up with the idea, but I thought a DVD advent calendar might be the way to go. So everyday Rachel could unwrap a DVD. My favourite shop is CEX and so I took a trip there and decided to spend 50p per film. I thought they’d sell at 50p would be pretty bad films, but I was pleasantly surprised as there were quite a few Oscar winning ones I could choose from.

I picked some classics and some random ones to give a real mixture. Time will tell what Rachel thinks of the choices!

 

Thoughtful presents: Work kindness

Work is a place that sometimes you can take help and kindness for granted. You’re all working at the same company with hopefully the same vision as your company and would automatically help people out to be on the same page of achieving the vision (in theory.)

Back in September I went on holiday for two weeks and I needed a couple of people to help cover my role while I was away. However it was near impossible to get anyone to cover for me. In the end I found one person, and while I was away two others helped out as well. With a fast paced office, the role that I have along with 60 odd others is pretty demanding, so I appreciated the cover even more.

Upon returning from holiday I found there were a few people that helped out while I was away, and it took me a while to figure out a way to say thank you. One person was based at another site so I needed to find a gift I could send in the internal mail. I settled on a set of thank you teabags from ‘Not on the High Street’ and a jar I bought from Home Bargains for a whopping 10p I filled up with chocolates as another way to say thank you.

Both presents were gratefully received and touched that I even got them a present in the first place.

Thoughtful presents: Social media helps

I’ve read several articles recently about how with social media can make some people feel more alone. For me using Facebook for me only enhances friendships. I have a Facebook group for myself and 7 of my school friends and it’s great for arranging catch ups as we can get answers really quickly on when we’re free. Things like Instagram can help you see what your friends are up to that you may not have seen in a while. And while I’ve got a Twitter account but rarely tweet, it’s fun to look at from time to time.

When it comes to thoughtful presents I  get clues from social media as to what and when to give someone a thoughtful present. You see the odd status update or tweet from time to time of when friends are stressed and not going their way. My trick is to remember those times but then act on it weeks, or even months after they’ve said something, and when people least expect it.

I love giving gifts when it’s not a special occasion; I find they are more thoughtful and appreciated that way. I’ve sent two gifts out in the past few weeks.

The first gift I got was for my friend Paula who I haven’t seen her in over a year. A few months ago she was saying how stressed she was and when somebody says something like that I immediately think what can I do? She loves shoes; I am in awe of her shoe collection, particularly as its spread over two locations! I wasn’t going to buy her a pair of shoes but I did find a book on shoes which I knew she’d love. I sent a little typed note saying life is always better when there are shoes and to look at it when she got stressed. I didn’t put my name on the note, and a few days after I sent it she put something on Facebook thanking the anonymous donor of the book. I still haven’t said it was me, so surprise Paula if you’re reading this!

The second gift I got was for Kas who I haven’t seen since uni (still can’t believe I graduated 8 years ago.) Like me Kas has been through the job hunt a lot and it was a random tweet she put out that got me thinking there’s something I can do.

As you know this year I’ve read a lot of books and my friend Linsey bought me #GIRLBOSS for Christmas last year. I read it in January and it’s now one of my favourite books. It’s a non candy coated autobiography about how Sophia Amoruso started running how own business and I thought it’s a book I thought Kas needed in her life. It inspired and motivated me no end and it’s a book I could talk non-stop about.

Kas knew she was getting something in the post as I asked for her address but she had no idea what. She sent me the kindest message thanking me and I was glad I could give a bit of a boost when she needed it.

Giving thoughtful presents isn’t rock science; all it takes is a bit of listening, reading and asking yourself the simple question: what can I do to help?